Do you think trauma is affecting you?  

This is the truth straight up: Trauma affects everyone, of course some people more than others.

Everyone’s capacity and nervous system are different. Therefore, what one person may perceive as a trauma, another person may not be affected by it. Neither person is wrong, we are just all different and have different purposes, callings etc in life (needing different nervous systems for different things).

In psychology, traumatic experiences can be divided into two components: objective and subjective. The objective are the events that result in the trauma. The subjective is how the individual experiences those events.

PTSD is often linked to the word trauma but having a slightly avoidant dad can result in severe trauma patterning in an adult. Being shamed once by a teacher at school, same thing. Rejection from a girl you asked out in high school again, possibly the same thing.

So, trauma is subjective AND everyone still will experience it as some stage in their lives. Most people nowadays have experience childhood trauma in some way. I am yet to come across anyone that has. 

One of my colleagues has been a psychologist for 20 years and treated many people for acute traumatic type events and yet ALL these clients had complex trauma (more than one event affecting them). 

Essentially, she is confirming as a fully booked psych for 20 years with a 6-month waitlist, never has she seen a client that had a single event trauma history. As a part of my work and many people in similar roles to me, are trying to reframe the meaning of trauma to most people. 

A lot of what traumas is, and my speciality is how did your attachments, development and younger years form your beliefs around self (especially self-confidence, self-worth, self-love), conditioning, patterns, limiting patterns.

Anything that feels like there is a contraction, tightening, sadness, shame, or guilt when you think of an event is likely stored in your body as trauma and needs to be shifted through professional guidance.

If you regularly feel overwhelmed, anxious, not good enough (to the point of it affecting you following your dreams, showing up for yourself, not pointing yourself out there, not believing you are worthy of good things), self-sabotage, procrastination. Maybe you feel lots of shame and guilt around the past, or even just around who you are in general.

This work (somatic type trauma therapy and emotional nervous system work) IS FOR YOU.

This work has changed my life. Truly, deeply changed things. Why? Trauma is stored within the body and nervous system (called trauma imprints) and until you work on clearing them from the body that will keep coming out subconsciously in (seemingly unrelated ways = triggers). 

Be the person that breaks the cycle and be okay with being the black sheep you were likely labelled for far to long.